How to Get Over a Crush: 11 Guaranteed Ways

Having a crush on someone is both a pleasant experience and a demoralizing experience.

On the one hand, you appreciate their beauty and charm. On the other hand, you know that all it will be is just a crush.

That's if we look at the word "crush" in its true definition.

(It's not usually a feeling that is returned by the person you have a crush on. Crushes are usually one-sided).

They are also usually a projection or fantasy of what you think someone is.

Due to unrequited attraction, having a crush can be painful, but it's also a red flag.

Why an alarm clock? Well, now let's take a look at why, as well as how to get over a crush in 11 guaranteed ways.

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What does it mean to have a crush on someone?

To know why having a crush on someone is a red flag, we need to define what the word crush means.

What it means to have a crush

The Cambridge Dictionary defines having a crush on someone as:

"A strong but temporary feeling of liking someone."

And Google defines it as:

"A brief but intense infatuation with someone, especially someone unreachable."

These two definitions indicate that a crush is not love, it is simply infatuation. It's idealizing someone.

And idealizing someone is problematic, because every human being is, well, a human being.

No matter how hot someone is, they have downsides. They have habits that you may not appreciate.

They may even turn out to have traits that you will despise if you get to know them.

So why is having a crush on someone a red flag?

Because this is a chance for you to learn a valuable lesson. The lesson is that chances are your crush is based on your own idea of who someone is.

Crushes aren't based on who someone really is. They are based on what that person means to you and the external image that person shows to the world.

See, you often don't really know your crush.

You can't even trust them.

You haven't really invested in them (and neither have they invested in you).

Unless you're already friends and actually in love with them, he's just someone who seems high value and/or genetically gifted.

Fundamentally, crushes aren't based on real life. They are based on fantastic stories that you like to invent in your head.

True love and real life are much more raw, real, and soul-opening than your infatuation can convince you to believe.

And just to be clear, we should also define infatuation.

"Infatuation is an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone."

Therefore, an infatuation with someone is no more valuable to you (or to them) than a crush. It's all fantasy and projection.

Projection of our own wants and needs (of that person).

It doesn't make your crush any less real.

It doesn't make your desire for them less intense.

It just means it will pass.

But before...

How to Get Over a Crush: 11 Guaranteed Ways

Having a crush on someone is both a pleasant experience and a demoralizing experience.

On the one hand, you appreciate their beauty and charm. On the other hand, you know that all it will be is just a crush.

That's if we look at the word "crush" in its true definition.

(It's not usually a feeling that is returned by the person you have a crush on. Crushes are usually one-sided).

They are also usually a projection or fantasy of what you think someone is.

Due to unrequited attraction, having a crush can be painful, but it's also a red flag.

Why an alarm clock? Well, now let's take a look at why, as well as how to get over a crush in 11 guaranteed ways.

Table of Contents

What does it mean to have a crush on someone?

To know why having a crush on someone is a red flag, we need to define what the word crush means.

What it means to have a crush

The Cambridge Dictionary defines having a crush on someone as:

"A strong but temporary feeling of liking someone."

And Google defines it as:

"A brief but intense infatuation with someone, especially someone unreachable."

These two definitions indicate that a crush is not love, it is simply infatuation. It's idealizing someone.

And idealizing someone is problematic, because every human being is, well, a human being.

No matter how hot someone is, they have downsides. They have habits that you may not appreciate.

They may even turn out to have traits that you will despise if you get to know them.

So why is having a crush on someone a red flag?

Because this is a chance for you to learn a valuable lesson. The lesson is that chances are your crush is based on your own idea of who someone is.

Crushes aren't based on who someone really is. They are based on what that person means to you and the external image that person shows to the world.

See, you often don't really know your crush.

You can't even trust them.

You haven't really invested in them (and neither have they invested in you).

Unless you're already friends and actually in love with them, he's just someone who seems high value and/or genetically gifted.

Fundamentally, crushes aren't based on real life. They are based on fantastic stories that you like to invent in your head.

True love and real life are much more raw, real, and soul-opening than your infatuation can convince you to believe.

And just to be clear, we should also define infatuation.

"Infatuation is an intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone."

Therefore, an infatuation with someone is no more valuable to you (or to them) than a crush. It's all fantasy and projection.

Projection of our own wants and needs (of that person).

It doesn't make your crush any less real.

It doesn't make your desire for them less intense.

It just means it will pass.

But before...

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