Negotiation has a bad reputation. People think it’s awkward, aggressive, or reserved for boardrooms and billion-dollar deals. But that’s simply not the truth.
Negotiation is everywhere. It’s about asking for a better rate, setting limits on your time, entering into partnerships with brands, or even just making sure you’re getting what you actually want out of life. Whether you’re building a business, developing your personal brand, trying to get a little something extra at a hotel, or simply becoming more intentional in your decisions, knowing how to negotiate is a power move.
The truth? People who get what they want are not only lucky, they are also strategic. And they’re not afraid to ask.
This is why we loved this preview of Sophia Amoruso.
You may have heard it on The Bosssticksbut if you don’t know her, she is the founder of Mean girl and the original boss. This is someone who has built a brand from the ground up and knows exactly how to handle everything from scrappy beginnings to high-stakes deals.
She recently shared an article describing what took her 15 years to learn negotiation in about 5 seconds. And of course we took notes.
His opinion? Negotiation is not about haggling. It’s about designing the deal you actually want.
So whether you’re a founder, starting a business, negotiating your salary, or just trying to improve your daily life, this article is for you.
5 Negotiation Secrets from Sophia Amoruso That Will Change the Way You Close Deals
1. Before you even start
Negotiation doesn’t start when you sit down, it starts much earlier.
To understand:
What they really need from you (and what pressures they are under: budget, deadlines, approval requirements, etc.).
Your starting number and your “stretch” request.
A few compromises you can make don’t cost you anything but seem valuable to them.
2. Stop thinking yes/no
It’s not just a matter of “I win” or “I lose”.
Sometimes you win on price but give up your rights.
Or you take less money but get equity or control of your job.
Or you play it safe now so you can land a bigger deal later.
You’re not looking for a single win, you’re building a set of wins.
3. Money is not the only asset
If they’re stuck on price, move the conversation.
Ask for a shorter exclusivity.
Faster payment terms.
Performance bonuses.
Right to reuse or resell your work.
Get creative: Sometimes the best part of a transaction isn’t the check.
4. Get information they don’t know you have
Don’t just Google “average rates.”
Discover:
What they have already paid for similar work.
Who within the company is your biggest fan?
Which competitor they really don’t want you to work with.
This is a lever you can actually use.
5. Price is a signal
If your price is too low, people will assume that you are inexperienced, in low demand, or that you will have a headache later.
Set a number that says, “I’m good at this and you’re lucky to have me” – then deliver it to make it look like a good deal.
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As Sophia says, “Negotiation isn’t about haggling, it’s about crafting the deal you actually want. I’ve used these strategies to close everything from thrift store finds to multi-million dollar deals.”
If you want his complete playbook and free guide, you can comment on his post and she will send it to you.
Ultimately, negotiation isn’t about being the loudest person in the room, it’s about being the most intentional person.
So the next time you’re presented with an opportunity, don’t just accept what’s on the table. Ask for more (be nice!), get creative, and design something better.
Do you have any negotiation success stories? A trade deal? A collaboration? A little extra from a hotel or an airline? Let us know below.
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