Dear young girls

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A lot of people have become rather obsessed with what they call "matching energy to energy", whatever that means.

Let's consider this message from a sister and I'll tell my story.

"I saw my friend. She told me that she had been through a lot but was left alone. I felt bad, because I confused that she was staying with herself and that she didn't care because I often shared my problems with her. So I'm going to learn to give people the benefit of the doubt and try not to jump to conclusions."

Before YOU decide to "match the energy", I will tell you that it is more HUMAN to reach out, first. A lot of things happen to people that they don't know how to handle otherwise.

Yet many of us will decide we have "the energy to match" and end up letting a friend down when we need us most. It's funny how we don't even realize we're JUST allowing pettiness.

Let's not just be "good friends" when the weather is good everywhere. Life will always happen.

Being a friend isn't always when the other gives pleasant vibes. Sometimes you have to force open a door that a FRIEND has closed to the world and draw their curtains so that sunlight can once again enter their life.

They won't always be that good, strong, wise, cheerful friend to you. They will touch the dust, sometimes.

They will sit in the mud in certain seasons of their lives. They will wallow in unhealthy emotions at times. All in all, what you owe them is to be there, arms outstretched, ready to get them back on their feet. Do not resort to "corresponding energy".

I was at a VERY low in my life recently due to multiple bereavements in my family. There's a lady that God used to get me back on my feet, even though she didn't know it!

Someone who seemed unable to do anything without "disturbing" Oby first. In those dark times of my life, I completely closed myself off to EVERYONE in my space.

Became distant. Wouldn't take calls or answer messages, most of the time. I just wanted to be left alone.

When she managed to get me out of town for a social engagement, I still wasn't myself. One morning she walked into my hotel room and sat staring at me for what felt like an eternity.

When she finally spoke up, she said "for the sake of who you are, you'll come out of this stronger than you've ever been."

His words made me cry like I never did in my life before. She sat there throughout my sobbing episode and when I was done she got up and left.

I started laughing after he left, tears still streaming down my cheeks. Was I really looking for a motivational speaker! ?

She may not have had many words for me, but she has the right spirit to handle me at my worst. These are the efforts we should make, nurturing the right spirit to handle the one we call a FRIEND at his worst, for the times that test your loyalty, your pride and anything that can easily irritate your ego will happen in the friendship.

So if you need to keep "corresponding energy" for each of these moments, I'm here to tell you to LET THE FRIENDSHIP ALONE.

Times will come when it is YOUR energy that will carry this friendship/relationship through the tough times, because the other party is on a LOW wavelength. There are also times when life will require them to "portage".

At other times, life will grant a rest and things will flow seamlessly. Pray to recognize the call of friendship that every moment brings to your door and to answer it with the right spirit.

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