Five ways to handle the chick on your husband's side

“Sidechick” is the word that sends shivers down the spine of some married women when talking about their husbands.

A girlfriend is a mistress or woman that a man secretly dates in addition to his girlfriend or wife.

No woman likes or appreciates being told that her husband has a mistress. She also does not pray to meet her husband in bed with another woman.

If you ever find out your husband has a mistress, rather than engaging in a physical confrontation, here are five more unconventional ways to deal with the matter.

Do your research

Before you decide to attack your husband's girlfriend or start speaking out, do some research.

Find out facts about the secondary chick like her name, relationship status, and if you can, how she and your husband met.

Research provides a better overview of the situation. For example, while you might think she's the side girl, from her perspective, that's not the case because your husband might have secretly married her.

Don't jump to conclusions; instead, take the time to reflect and investigate.

Never face it

I don't know who needs to hear this, but when it comes to infidelity in your marriage, you have no problem being chicky; all your anger should be directed at your husband.

Some married women have a habit of visiting the houses of their husbands' chicks to physically and verbally abuse them. Avoid going down this path by dismissing the idea of ​​facing your chick from the side.

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Remember that she is a third party and not part of the legal syndicate.

Talk to your husband

In situations like this, communication is key. Don't let your emotions get the better of you, forcing you to pack up and leave.

After hearing about his infidelity, take the time to collect yourself before approaching him.

As expected, he'll deny it at first, but keep pushing the issue and provide evidence to back up your claim.

If he later admits to the act, calmly ask him why he did it.

Request marriage counseling

Now, if you notice that despite his infidelity, you still love him and hope to continue the marriage, you should see a good marriage counselor.

Tell him about this idea and make sure he's on board before reaching out to an advisor. During your sessions, open up to the counselor about your feelings. Discuss how her infidelity has affected you and the current position she is keeping you both in.

The best way for this healing process to work is to keep an open mind and listen to what the counselor and husband have to say. This assumes that you attend counseling sessions with your husband.

Take a decision

All roads have led to this last moment. After talking to your husband and seeing a marriage counselor, it's now time for you to decide if you'll try to work out the marriage or pack up and leave.

While there is no perfect answer to what you should be doing, remember to do what would make you happy and mentally/emotionally stable.

Bonus tip: For your safety, please endeavor to go to a medical center to find out if you have contacted any STDs or STIs due to your husband's infidelity. Your sanity matters too, so guard his heart jealously.

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