Living with a loved one
I have found that many people who live with another family for whatever reason have conflicts with their host at one point or another, depending on how long they are staying. It shouldn't be.
The fact that you are staying with your relative and their family does not give you the freedom to behave as you see fit; waking up when they and others do, doesn't call for clashes. Help with household chores if needed. Avoid babysitting late nights if the family is opposed to the idea. Go to church when they want you to go.
In fact, whatever your age, the key to living in peace with a loved one is to become a child of the household, not an authority.
Most importantly, don't act like Lot who seemed ungrateful. He could not control his servants and was willing to trade issues with his benefactor. Be like David who nevertheless lived with a difficult master; always tried everything in his power to please him. The fact that Saul threw a spear at David did not cause him to act disrespectfully towards Saul at any time.
Listen to his words; “Let the Lord keep me from doing this to my master, the anointed of the Lord…” The next verse continues: “So David restrained his servants with these words and did not let them rise up against Saul…” ( 1 Sam. 24:6-7).
Insert yourself deliberately into this family and show respect and consideration. Bear in mind that you should not stay in this position forever. Have a plan and let them know the plan.
If you are going to be staying with them for a few days, weeks, months, or years, appreciate their hospitality and let them know that within a specified time you will be moving. Don't leave a bitter taste in their mouths when you go there, instead let them fill with sweet memories of your stay. Be useful and make the family happy. Don't be ungrateful. Again, don't be an authority. To be under authority. I love you!
I have found that many people who live with another family for whatever reason have conflicts with their host at one point or another, depending on how long they are staying. It shouldn't be.
The fact that you are staying with your relative and their family does not give you the freedom to behave as you see fit; waking up when they and others do, doesn't call for clashes. Help with household chores if needed. Avoid babysitting late nights if the family is opposed to the idea. Go to church when they want you to go.
In fact, whatever your age, the key to living in peace with a loved one is to become a child of the household, not an authority.
Most importantly, don't act like Lot who seemed ungrateful. He could not control his servants and was willing to trade issues with his benefactor. Be like David who nevertheless lived with a difficult master; always tried everything in his power to please him. The fact that Saul threw a spear at David did not cause him to act disrespectfully towards Saul at any time.
Listen to his words; “Let the Lord keep me from doing this to my master, the anointed of the Lord…” The next verse continues: “So David restrained his servants with these words and did not let them rise up against Saul…” ( 1 Sam. 24:6-7).
Insert yourself deliberately into this family and show respect and consideration. Bear in mind that you should not stay in this position forever. Have a plan and let them know the plan.
If you are going to be staying with them for a few days, weeks, months, or years, appreciate their hospitality and let them know that within a specified time you will be moving. Don't leave a bitter taste in their mouths when you go there, instead let them fill with sweet memories of your stay. Be useful and make the family happy. Don't be ungrateful. Again, don't be an authority. To be under authority. I love you!
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