3 secrets of couples who stay in love

One thing we found out about love, relationships, marriage and how to stay in love is…

Good relationships do NOT happen by accident…

In fact, this is true not only for your relationships, but for everything in life...

A great junk doesn't happen by accident…

Take for example couples who “fall in love” and “stay in love”…

What we discovered is that "falling in love" and "staying in love" are two different things.

Falling in love is often easier than staying in love, but for couples who manage to do both, the question is…

How do they do it?

How do these couples seem to defy the odds and do what most couples seem unable to do?

There are several ways couples can keep the fires going long after the initial attraction.

Secret #1

Couples who stay in love actually seem to talk to each other differently than couples who go to divorce court.

They are simply nicer to each other and don't jump to conclusions, reacting defensively.

In any relationship, words can hurt and words can heal.

We've found that the words and your intention behind those words really can make the difference between you staying in love or your relationship becoming a divorce or breakup statistic–

-> Free video gives you magic words for easier communication ->

When you allow love to flow through you instead of the usual old ways of communicating, there is the possibility of a deeper connection and a richer relationship.

Secret #2

Couples who “fall in love” AND “stay in love” for a long time “give up the competition”.

We can't tell you how many times we've seen this in our coaching work with individuals and couples…

Couples compete over big and small things (even playfully) and sit in amazement when life has been sucked out of their relationship or marriage and they wonder…

Why?

The reason is simple:

In our view, there is no room for competition in a relationship between intimate or married couples.

Competition interrupts cooperation and “gets on the same page”.

If you doubt this is true or not…

Try this…

The next time you and your intimate partner or spouse are having a little friendly competition over anything, when you're done, ask yourself a very simple question:

"Do I feel closer and more connected to him or do I feel distant and more disconnected?"

We're willing to bet you'll feel more disconnected if there's some sort of competition between the two of you.

Of all the people we have worked with personally, especially those deciding to stay or leave a relationship, none of these people have ever told us…

"I feel like we really are on the same team here, we're going our separate ways!"

It just doesn't happen.

Here is Susie and Otto's rule for this:

In order to "stay in love", make sure that you and your partner or spouse ALWAYS look for opportunities to play on the same team, even when it seems impossible.

The potential challenges, upheavals and heartaches are just too great if you don't…

And the rewards are great if you do.

Secret #3

Couples who “fall in love” AND “stay in love” are regularly reminded of what they like, love and appreciate about each other.

Often one of us will ask…

"What do you appreciate most about me?"

To many people, it might seem a bit silly for a couple who have been together for as long as we've been together to tell each other all the time how much we appreciate each other.

But for us, appreciation has been important to staying close and connected, and we regularly recognize each other for big and small things.

Try this with your partner once in a while and notice the difference it makes in your relationship.

Just tell your partner:

“What I really appreciate about you is____________”

And then fill in the blank with what you like, like or appreciate about him.

That alone can sometimes work wonders in a relationship or marriage.

Please know...