3 Things to Remember as a Widower Amid Grief

There was A thing that surprised Me In THE time After losing Amy: Discovery out that joy And grief can coexist.

I always remember THE day I First of all discovered that. My son And her family had guest Me on For dinner (because, You know, they are really cool people). When I drove up has their House, I was overcome with sorrow—missing Amy, wishing She was there with Me, awareness She I would have loved one evening with her family. I bursting In tears behind THE piloting wheel, SO to the extent that I had has wait A little minutes has to leave THE storm pass. Finally, I dried My eyes, drawn myself together, And went inside.

While We were waiting For dinner, I sat down has play Jenga with My delicious little girl. Her eyes are emerald green - and exactly as her that of grandmother. I remember look In her eyes, seeing Amy In them, And having A hard time not tears Again. SO, suddenly, THE Jenga tower fell, And delighted laugh spilled out Since My little girl mouth.

And I felt such joy.

Just audience that child laugh do Me SO happy, And Again I was Also always feeling deep grief on Amy the death. All In at the same time.

Huh, I thought. It is unexpected.

THE following day, I turned has Writing to try to understand What had arrived. I find this:

On THE night Before her crucifixion, Jesus said has her disciples, "I to have said You This SO that My joy can be In You" (John 3:11 p.m., NIV, italics mine). About A hour Or SO later, In THE Garden has Gethsemane, Jesus said, "My soul East crushed with grief has THE indicate of the death" (Matthew 26:38, NLT, italics mine).

Joy And grief, on THE even night, In minutes of each other—entirely here In THE Son of God. This East, I discovered, Why he can be both A "Man of sorrows » (Isaiah 53:3) And THE fruit of her The mind presence East "joy" (Galatians 5:22 a.m.). And because he East TRUE of him, he can Also be TRUE For Me. And For you.

SO, No, you go Never get on losing your precious, unique, irreplaceable marry. But You can always experience joy in THE medium grief. You can always laugh with your children, appreciate A movie night with your friends, celebrate Christmas And Easter And each vacation In between because it really is true:

Joy And grief can coexist if You to leave them; You will see evidence of that In your own soul.

All RIGHT, I think It is enough For NOW. Remember, You are more that You think You are Today, And tomorrow, if You listen, you go hear God whisper has You the same words he gave has THE Apostle Paul (And has me):

"My Grace East sufficient For you." (2 Corinthians 12:9, NIV)

With love has You, My friend,

Mikey

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