4 Relationship "Rules" Every Couple Should Break

Whether you consider yourself a "rule breaker" or not, sometimes all you need to do is break the rules of a relationship.

The thing is, we all live by a set of rules. We can't call them that or even be aware of what those rules are most of the time. In fact, we live by most of our rules without realizing it.

So what rules are we talking about and why should we "break" them?

We are talking about the "rules" that you, we and everyone else live by are making every moment of our lives.

These rules we're talking about may include ideas and beliefs that your parents preached or held up to you and that you adopted even though you may not have realized them.

Also, these rules are the beliefs that society subtly (and sometimes not so subtly) says you should or shouldn't do.

These rules that you follow (often unconsciously) act as a rudder or guide for what you will or will not do in your life.

In fact, most of the rules we follow in our relationships and marriages keep us from having all the love and passion we possibly can, instead of giving us more.

You know the ones we're talking about...

You have them in your own life if you think about it.

Ideas like…

"Marriage is tough, so make the most of it"

"It's your duty as a woman, so lay down and get through it as best you can"

Or our favorite "Passion dies after a few years together, so don't expect it to last very long."

Wow, even if you don't have these specific beliefs, we're assuming you have some beliefs and rules that keep you from living the best life and relationships possible.

Here are 4 relationship rules we like to break so we can keep the passion alive in our relationship and we urge you to break them often too!….

Rule #1 to break: Don't allow yourself to be vulnerable and totally honest about who you are

This is one of the greatest unspoken relationship rules we've seen demonstrated and passed down from generation to generation.

It's the one that says, "If you've ever been hurt, don't open up to anyone else. Keep a part of yourself private and never allow yourself to be vulnerable like that again."< /p>

Although we know that it is not easy to open up to another after suffering, if you hold back a part of yourself, you also hold back love.

And this withholding of love can only increase the feeling of distance and separation between the two of you.

This restraint shows in our communications with each other. If you want some really practical ideas on how to start being honest about who you are and open your heart to more love, check out our "Stop Talking About Eggshells" program.

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Breaking rule #2: romance, passion, and intimacy must happen spontaneously.

The fear behind this rule is that planning for passion leads to boredom in a relationship.

There is the belief that for passion to be exciting, you must always be spontaneous - that if you eliminate mystery and surprise, you will both be bored.

While this may be true for some people, we have found the opposite to be true for most of us.

The truth is, when you make passion a part of your life, the juice between the two of you only increases.

Author Malcolm Gladwell said you can become an expert at anything by doing it for 10,000 hours.

Now, we're not saying you have to spend 10,000 hours in the throes of passion to get good, but we're saying it can go up instead of down if you incorporate more passion into your life.

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And you do it by planning it, because if you don't, you know as well as we do that life will get in your way and it won't happen.

And you do it by having a passionate mindset and seeking it out in the most unlikely ways.

So break that rule and deepen your connection and passion with each other.

Rule #3 to break: Do not touch or show intimacy in public

How many couples do you see holding hands when walking or sitting in a restaurant?

Not much, right?

For some reason, it seems to go against the grain to show even innocent signs of affection in public, even though it's one of the things that can help keep your passion...