4 ways to enforce boundaries

Claudie was livid.

When She discovered her husband did not have paid a few invoices that he said he would have paid, She was SO angry She could spit nails.

This was not THE First of all time This had arrived during their years together And She worried that he wouldn't he be THE last - and they would have Soon be In financial ruin.

In THE pass, shed gave a lecture him, threat has take control of their finance And even leave their marriage but She Never would be follow through.

He said her that he "forget" And When press, he admitted has expenses THE money on other things as rooms For her motorcycle.

Claudie doesn't know What has TO DO following SO She arranged has to have A management conversation with We has help her together A border that would be "stick."

When most of We think of setting borders that stick, We think We to have has harden, get angry And put A hard shell around ourselves.

Often We feel as We to have has puff ourselves up SO THE other person will know how serious We are about THE limit.

Here are A little things Claudie discovered about borders that stick during OUR conversation that can shed light on A situation You can be having…

1. Get clear.

Before You seaside resort has setting Again another border that THE other person ignores, get clear In yourself.

Ask yourself these questions…

What TO DO You Ultimately to want by create THE border?

What action are You willing has take if THE border is not it honored?

East he A agreement breaker And Or are You willing has draw THE line ?

Are You willing has follow through on THE Actions You said you would have take?

As Claudie considered OUR questions A by A, She First of all accomplished that What She Really research was For THE two of them has work as A team In their marriage And In their finances.

She research has feel connected has him as they had has been When they were First of all together.

She Also accomplished that She Really was not willing has leave their marriage And She saw THE Shame her threats had on their relationship.

Although She doesn't to want has leave THE relationship, She was not clear What not She could take For her husband has "get he" that THE invoices had has be paid And on time.

2. Listen has your interior wisdom.

If your border East future Since your head not your heart, he won't "stick" In A in good health way.

He will be created In fear And if It is honored, he will be honored In fear.

When You get calm, your interior wisdom will guide You In A magnet path has your following steps.

As Claudie stopped to reflect on on her stories about all THE times her husband had failed In THE pass, She obtained calm.

She saw that shed Never Really talked with him about THE path they manipulated finance together.

From her father had paid all THE invoices In their family, She had always assumed that It is THE path weddings work.

Shed Never talked with her husband about their financial goals And What each of them wanted.

With This preview, She was beginning has see A opening towards What could be link Deeper with him.

3. Be flexible In your rigidity.

Even However he can be hard has hear, be open has changing your own rules about What You think your borders should be.

Having flexibility doesn't mean giving up your values but he do mean that he could look different Since What You thought.

As Claudie look at Deeper with more love instead of hardness And rigidity…

She could see that fear overwhelmed her as She conceived A creepy future of financial ruin.

As She calm her stories, see could see other possibilities.

She could see that he could be possible has plan has pay THE invoices And buy a few of THE motorbike rooms her husband wanted.

As She saw even more possibilities, her rigidity And fear seemed has faded.

4. Do A request And listen with love.

When You are open has listen with A open heart And manufacturing A ...