A way out of the struggle of 3 relationship challenges

Since our new book BIG FAT LOVE; The Book of Possibilities was released this week, we wanted to highlight some ideas of how you can get out of your challenges.

Here are 3 common relationship issues and how allowing more love can create more ease and less struggle in your life…

#1 How creating Big Fat Love simplifies honest communication

When you live (or can return to) a loving space most of the time, sharing from your heart and listening to the truths of others becomes easier.

Peggy learned that when she allowed herself to see things her husband was doing without giving them a “story” or ascribing meaning to them…

She was able to calmly ask questions about what it was and listen to it with a more open heart than she had before.

She found she wasn't that critical of him and they got along so much better than they had in years.

She also saw that she could be more honest with him about things that really mattered to her without criticizing him when she allowed herself to let go of her expectations and sink into a more loving space with him.

Dive into a space of love, for her, meant remembering that they were very different people and that her path was not always the only one.

That meant not taking at face value all those critical and passing thoughts she had about him, but sticking to what was happening here, right now.

And you?

How can you allow more love to happen between you and someone important in your life?

#2 How Living in Big Fat Love Takes the Struggle Out of Confidence

When something has happened to destroy trust in a relationship (or it could be thousands of little "somethings") and you're facing relationship challenges...

You feel caught off guard and you don't know where or what to trust.

You don't want to get burned again.

The trend is to close for protection and we say something completely different from that.

As you open up to finding a space of love within yourself, you will see clearly what your next step is, because your "crazy" thinking will not cloud your vision.

Rachael, Tom's girlfriend, had confessed to having an emotional affair with his colleague and Tom was devastated.

She wanted to work things out with Tom, but he was so angry and hurt that he wasn't sure what he wanted.

With our help, he took some time off, stopped replaying all the scenarios with Rachael and the other guy in his head, and allowed himself to settle in.

When he was able to fall into a space of love within himself, he clearly saw what he wanted.

He realized that if Rachael wanted to be with this other guy, he wouldn't cling to her and if she really wanted to be with Tom, he was open to seeing what that might be like.

Tom felt a little peace because he was beginning to believe that in the quiet space inside of him he could find answers and he could find more peace and love.

Are you beginning to see how stepping into more love can bring you more peace and clarity in whatever situation you find yourself in?

#3 How Living in Big Fat Love Helps Avoid Clinging to Resentment

Resentment can only occur when you repeatedly relive your perception of hurts from a troubling past and bring it into the present moment.

When you live in Big Fat Love, there is no room for resentment because your heart is open, your mind is curious, and you are open and ready to see situations and others with new eyes – in the present moment.

You are ready to see them in a new way, where you might have ignored them or pushed them away in some way before.

When you close (and we all do), you can remind yourself to return to a space of love within you, especially for yourself.

Resentment becomes a non-issue or even impossible when you live in a space of curiosity.

We found out that you can't be critical and curious at the same time.

You can't be angry and judgmental and open to a deeper connection at the same time.

Living in Big Fat Love opens up possibilities for love that weren't there before when you start living in the present moment and from there.

Relationship challenges disappear.

The truth is, resentment only hurts you and...