In fact, you don't have to wait three months to tell people you're pregnant

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THE 12 weeks convention East difficult. Partially It is A reflection of THE path We monitor And manage pregnancy In This UNITED KINGDOM. Usually, has about 12 weeks, You would be to have What THE NHS calls A dating analysis, during which A sonographer will estimate When You are due, check THE physical development of your fetus, And screen For possible terms. You will almost certainly know someone WHO has disappeared For A dating analysis And discovered that their baby has No heartbeat, that he has stopped growth, Or that their pregnancy East No longer viable For A of A myriad of the reasons. They could not to have said You about he (Again), but he will to have arrived. According to has THE charity Tommy's, A In five pregnancies END In miscarriage And most miscarriages arrive In THE First of all 12 weeks. SO odds are, if You know people WHO to have has been pregnant, You know people WHO to have lost pregnancies, too.

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