Building a Strong Marriage: How Humility Leads to Unity and Security

Marriage is a beautiful journey filled with ups and downs, joys and challenges. At the heart of a strong and thriving marriage is a virtue that often goes unnoticed but plays a vital role in promoting unity and security: humility.

My wife, Jennifer, and I have discovered through our own experiences that humility is not just a quality but a necessity for building a strong marriage.

The Bible is full of scriptures on humility that have guided our relationship:

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain vanity. Instead, with humility, value others above yourselves(Philippians 2:3).

Humility is the fear of the Lord; his reward is wealth, honor and life (Proverbs 22:4).

He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? Act righteously, love mercy, and walk humbly with your God (Micah 6:8).

These are just a few of the many scriptures that powerfully remind us to walk in humility, acknowledging our need for Jesus and His love.

Let's explore how humility leads to unity and security, drawing on our personal history and the timeless wisdom of God's Word.

The Power of Humility in Marriage

Humility is walking without pride. It is a modest vision of oneself, a posture of submission and sacrifice. In our marriage, we have learned that humility is a powerful way to draw us closer to each other and to God.

It's about acknowledging our imperfections and accepting to be humble with one another. Rather than just seeing their weakness or failure, we can show understanding, patience, and forgiveness because that's what we ourselves desire and know we need anyway.

Walking with humility puts your spouse's interest before your own. It is to be ready to serve them, to love them and to give and give even more.

It shouldn't be a secret or a surprise, but when a spouse walks with humility, there can be more trust, love, and security in marriage. Humility is non-negotiable.

Unity through humility

Unity is a beautiful image of humility in action. A husband and wife, walking in humility, create a connection that goes beyond mere agreement or compromise.

Humility allows for more conversation, a deeper understanding of your spouse, and the ability to truly bring yourself down while uplifting your spouse.

When husband and wife do this, an amazing unity begins to form where each person puts their spouse above themselves.

In fact, unity is impossible with humility. You cannot be reconciled to God without humbling yourself before Him, and you cannot have unity with your spouse without showing some level of humility.

Safety through humility

There is a deep security in humility. It's about creating an environment in which both partners feel safe and valued.

Whenever I know people with some sort of innate sense of pride, who believe they are never wrong or that they can do no wrong, it produces a very dangerous and insecure relationship.

This pride makes it almost impossible to share your heart with them. In marriage, we have the opportunity to create a safe and secure environment where your spouse need not fear that your pride will get in the way of closeness and love.

In our marriage, this security has led to a deeper connection and understanding, allowing us to grow together in love and faith.

Humility has been a powerful force in our marriage. She eased tensions, restored relationships and brought light to our lives. Humility is something that uplifts not just your spouse, but your entire family.

Building a strong marriage requires love and commitment, and humility is required for both. We have seen for ourselves how humility leads to unity and security in our relationship.

It is a lifelong journey that must begin with prayer and asking God to humble your heart before Him and asking Him to teach you when and how to walk humbly with your spouse.

Finally, pray that God will also teach your spouse to be humble, by your example and through His Word.

Walk humbly with your spouse today and watch what God is doing in your marriage.

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