Podcast Ep. 266: Do more “rehearsals” of being yourself

In this week's episode of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, I talk about the importance of representing yourself: showing up, speaking up, and standing up for who you really are. If we don't portray ourselves authentically, people don't have a true sense of who we are, including our needs, limitations, and values.

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5 key topics in this episode To represent oneself is to recognize, acknowledge and express one's needs, desires, expectations, feelings and opinions with respect for oneself and others. I add "respect" because representing yourself is essentially asserting yourself instead of being passive, passive-aggressive or aggressive. What you can learn from your default responses to just representing yourself and being yourself is that you have negative associations with them. Your practical response is to shut down. But guess what? It's automatic, but it's not accurate. These thoughts and feelings are your clues to ask yourself: what do I really need here, and where am I going to hurt myself with suppression? Pay attention to how much of your bandwidth, of your day and week, is spent representing you? When you consider the conversations and interactions you've had, how you spent your bandwidth, how much of how you presented yourself today, whether to yourself or to others, is a reflection true or no longer true of you? Have people been able to interact with the real you? Have you given airtime to your thoughts and feelings? Have you had time to meet your own needs? You're not going to get more comfortable being honestly, authentically, and joyfully yourself, including knowing what to say yes and no to, if you don't do more "rehearsals." Thus, exercise repetitions consist of repeating a series of exercises that, for example, build strength but also the habit of exercising. Do more “rehearsals” to express who you are and represent yourself. for example. Be direct instead of giving hints. Say yes when you mean yes, and no when you mean no. Recognize and express your limits. Stop peeing and skipping meals, breaks and meeting your basic needs. Mentioned Links + Recommended Resources

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