When the novelty of a relationship wears off, is Gotcha play inevitable?

We all love THE "novelty" of A relationship When You are hypnotized by each other And You to really want to each others' business.

But What arrived When that fades far And You find that You to have worry even talk with A another And involuntarily to start playing A very destructive game?

Do fascination For each other to have has die as THE relationship matures?

Here is A question Since A of OUR readers And OUR answer that speak has This And a lot more…

"My husband once seemed hypnotized by Me And My love, My very person, fascinated by My tiny charlatans that determine THE person that I am. NOW he seems threat, precarious, out has compete with Me, Or instead What East he that took far My power. I don't do it seem has get through has him, has say him about My wanna, Or how her behavior of in consideration makes Me feel. And Again he always seems In to want of My love And acceptance. »

Here are OUR comments…

Here is OUR take on What This women East experiment And You can be also…

HAS THE beginning of A relationship, You are generally fascinated with each other And You either don't do it notice THE quarks And warts Or You ignore them because You are SO a lot In love.

You are literally "blind by THE light" as Bruce Springstein sang about.

You Sometimes marry Or deepen your relationship commitment And life gets In THE path. You can to have children, go on with your careers – and irritations And differences come upwards.

You could even wonder never mind arrived has THE women Or man I married Or decided has commit to.

Women, especially, can to start growth more confident And competent In their lives And as they TO DO SO, they can lose a few of that fascination they had For their man.

Their attention East Also generally drawn In a lot directions, especially if they to have children, And THE man can wonder What arrived.

THE even thing can arrive has A man, having their own challenges with maintain THE intense to focus that guard THE relationship growth And exciting during dating.

Are We blame anyone?

Of course no.

Both can to start get "comfortable" In THE relationship And forget how has TO DO their partner feel special.

In other words, they to start socket each other For granted.

SO here is A question For THE women WHO wrote In has We (as GOOD as anybody other WHO has felt This way)…

Are You hypnotized And fascinated by your partner?

If you have has been together For very long, odds are THE answer East no.

Were guessing that This couple East playing A game that a lot of We as has play When We feel hurt Or frustrated by THE other person And trying has get back has him Or her.

It is called THE "I got you" Thu.

"I got you" East typically What a lot of We automatically TO DO In answer When We feel that someone other has inflicted pain on us.

It is A refund. Although "I got you" East generally A unconscious protective device, he ends up be A intentional act has TO DO someone other pay.

THE I got you game can come In a lot different shapes And sizes…

1. Detention love, affection, Or sex

2. Cut, satirical remarks

3. Physically walk out Or refusing has speak

4. Physical And emotional abuse

5. Superiority

6. Busy And avoidance

(And a lot other ways)

Most people don't do it TO DO THE connection that When they are trying has pay someone back because of A perceived fake, they are acting Since their pain, fear And Since pass models.

Here are a few suggestions has help You to leave playing THE I got you game When that " speciality " door disabled…

1.Come In A awareness about your part In THE "I got you" game. Ask yourself When You First of all begin playing that.

2. Recognize your destructive Pennsylvania...