12 reasons guys are interested then back off + what to do

It's disconcerting when a guy shows interest and then backs off.

You go from a shower of attention to nothing. No.

Where did he go?

This may lead you to wonder: Was it all wrong? What did he really want? Did I do something wrong? And will he come back?

Don't worry too much, because I'm going to give you all the answers on why guys act self-serving, then walk away.

Let's go.

Table of Contents

Why do guys act so interested and then walk away? You weren't the one and only, you were "one of many" The mystery was lost when you returned your interest and attention He has a professional or family life He's in a different masculine "mode" You didn't return his interest enough, so he walked away He found another woman he's interested in (or who might be easier) It detected low value behaviors in you and was disabled His insecurities were triggered He has intimacy issues (avoidant attachment style) There's no emotional attraction to bind you two He bombarded you with love He's a hot and cold guy

As you can see, there are a number of possible reasons why a guy would act interested and then back off (or lose interest).

Now let's talk about each of these reasons.

When a guy shows interest and then backs off: why? #1: You weren't the one and only, you were "one of many"

If you've been following me for years now, chances are you've heard of this concept before.

But if not, here's the deal:

When a guy meets you and is looking to date you, he puts you in one of two categories (never both).

The first category is the "one and only" category.

If you fall into this category, it means he sees you as a woman he's ready (and deeply inspired) to commit to. And it is emotionally, physically and mentally.

He will treat you like that precious woman with whom he does not hesitate to share his life, because he is deeply in love.

And once in this category, it is difficult to get out.

(It's not that you want to date as a woman, because that's the most favorable category for you, in general).

Most women prefer to fall into this category unless they are only looking for attention, money and companionship.

The second category is the "one of many" category, and when you're in that category, it basically means what it says - you're one of many women in his life.

Even if you're the only woman he sees - you're still in one of many categories, which means there's little difference between you and any other woman he sees...