3 Ways to Ease Holiday Relationship Challenges…

This time of year is the worst for any man or woman going through marital or relationship difficulties.

You want to be happy on the holidays, but when your relationship (or any relationship) no longer has the love, passion, and connection you want and you don't know how to get it back.. .

What are you doing?

The worst holiday season Otto ever had was the year he left his ex-wife and, therefore, his son who was 8 years old at the time.

Pretty much all Otto did over the holidays was cry.

He would see a television commercial for toys and he would think of his son with whom he had spent the last 8 Christmas mornings…

And it would collapse.

He was trying to make vacation plans and it just wasn't the same.

Today Otto's son is 33 and they talk (or text) several times a week and have a great relationship.

They have a lot in common and both love the major league baseball team the Cincinnati Reds and of course, "The Boss" Bruce Springsteen.

Even though leaving his previous marriage was a very painful part of Otto's life, there is a place far worse than all of that…

The limbo.

Limbo is when you're in a state of uncertainty, when you don't know what to do about something important and you're stuck or frozen.

The reason you get stuck on ANY decision is that you associate emotional pain (or maybe some other kind of pain) with both staying where you are and what you think the things would be if you made a new decision.

So you do nothing and what you are left with by default is pain.

This is where many people find themselves in relationships and experiencing this holiday season.

They feel pain being where they are and feel like there will only be pain if they leave.

So they're basically frozen.

Blocked.

If you're someone who struggles with relationships while on vacation, here's the best advice we can give you…

Decide to do something.

Do NOT decide to get stuck.

We're not saying you or anyone else should leave your relationship or marriage to find love and happiness.

It requires careful thought and a conscious effort to revitalize your love before doing so.

What we're saying is that Limbo is a dangerous place to live, because by not taking steps to improve your life and your relationship, you're making a choice - and a very painful one.

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So, what do you do?

When we work with people in our coaching sessions, most often we hear this…

"I just don't know what to do to make things better. I've tried everything."

What we can lovingly say is that in most cases they have tried the same things that didn't work over and over again and seem shocked that their lives haven't improved.

If you're feeling uncertain about your relationship this holiday season or want to recapture the love and connection you once had in any relationship…

Here are 3 ways to get out of the holiday relationship challenges and move towards what you want…

1. Put the facts on paper

Be clear about what you really want and what is most important to you. You need to know what you want before you can head there.

If you need help with this problem, check out our "Should You Stay or Should You Go?" it's one of the best resources available to help you make that decision.

If you need more assistance, reach out to us personally by phone or Zoom and we'll help you find out what really matters to you.

You can ask one of us to help you resolve your relationship issues personally in person, over the phone or via Zoom.

For our personal help in your relationship, email us here…

The next thing we will suggest to help you get out of “limbo” is…

2. Try a new idea to move towards what you want

If communicating with your partner is an issue holding you back from the love you want, learn new ways to listen to and talk to each other.

We released our "Magic Relationship Words" a while ago and these tips are very easy ways for you to try something new right now to bring some openness and ease into...