6 ways not to dread the in-laws for the holidays

You should never be put in a position to assert your value or value. It's your spouse's job. In your wedding vows, you swore to love, honor and cherish each other. This is especially important when it comes to your spouse's parents. It doesn't matter if they are older than you or not. It is very important that they treat you with respect. Ask your spouse to tell them about you on your behalf. Ask your spouse to set a limit on your communication and interactions with each other.

Not only is it important for your spouse, but it is also an important example for your children. Children live what they learn. If they see you liking yourself and putting you first, they will grow to do the same. When you got married, you left your father and your mother to become one. Your new family should take precedence over your loved ones. You should not tolerate abuse, and neither should your spouse. If your spouse is unwilling to defend you on your behalf, there is a problem in the marriage that needs to be resolved. Talk about it frankly and try to solve it. Seek professional help if necessary.

In this technological world, we have lost the art of communication. Sometimes parents just want to be heard and they want their stories told so their emotional needs are known and seen. While you're with them, take the time to ask them a bit more about their story. Ask them how they got married, what it was like having their first child, their relationship with their in-laws, etc. alleviate their discomfort at no longer being able to raise their child. You can learn a thing or two you didn't know before, understand your spouse better, and foster intimacy and deeper communication.

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