Difficult conversations for couples - they can be easy

One of the most overwhelming feelings you can have when you're in a relationship or marriage (especially when you've been together a long time) is...

When you feel you can't say what you think or feel and be understood.

You may feel unbearably empty and…

It ruins your life and your relationship.

There are many reasons why you don't think you can open up and be honest with your partner or find the courage to ask for what you want.

If you can't talk to your partner like this, not only do you feel disconnected from them, but we assume you're also angry and upset (even if you don't want to admit it, even yourself). even .)

So what's the solution?

How can you say what's on your mind and in your heart without fearing what your partner might say, do, or how they might react and expect to be understood?

How can you really talk to your spouse or partner without one of you getting angry, hurt, or defensive?

In a nutshell, these are 3 things that can make a difference when communicating with someone important to you.

It's your mindset, your strategy and the words you use.

Here is an example of these 3 communication tips in action…

Pretend you're fed up with your partner's lack of attention, but you know that if you say anything, you'll start an argument and escalate it.

What are you doing?

Before you say a word, look at your mindset that says he or she will never change and always will – or whatever your mind chatter says.

You need to be open to the possibility that things will improve between the two of you.

And that starts with softening your approach to him or her and getting even the smallest results.

You also have to clarify within yourself what you want and that comes from a "knowing" inside of you.

When you're calm, clear, and don't come out of anger, you won't be drawn into old destructive patterns so easily.

2. If you're not getting what you want, you'll also want to change your approach.

Anything you did that didn't work out (like backing down, complaining, arguing or manipulating, asking rhetorical questions you know the answers to)…

Be open to a different approach.

What do you REALLY want?

If you want more attention from your partner, what can you actually ask for instead of complaining about what you're NOT getting?

It's an approach that can really make a difference in your relationship and that of your partner.

3. Explore the possibility of changing the words you use.

Very often the words you use and the way you pronounce them are just habits of the past.

We all learn ways of communicating from our parents and other influencers and we may not know how those words are understood by someone else.

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Compare this sentence (and the way it is said)…

"You're never romantic! How about a dinner out and a bouquet of roses once in a while!"

To…

"I'd like some alone time with you this weekend. Would you be willing to set aside time for a special night together?"

Wow–

Reading these two items, we're sure you can feel the difference and if you can feel it, your partner will too!

If you're afraid to say what you think or feel, don't get frustrated and say or do something you'll regret later.

Use our 3 communication tips to have difficult conversations for couples and create the relationship you've always dreamed of.

If you have any questions about how this might happen in your relationship, contact us here…