“Do you have to be kind to love?”

Session has A painting by THE restaurant window, My friend request My notice about What She thought THE message was In OUR new book, Big Fat Love: THE Book of Possibilities.

She obtained THE idea that A of THE books messages was just about be Good And that confused her.

SO, She request me…

"Do You to have has be Good has be love?"

As I fleet THE possibility that be magnet understand not only be magnet has others but Also has yourself, She seemed has relax.

By listen deeply has yourself First of all, There is A opportunity has talk with authenticity Since A place of awareness inside instead of Since patterns of trying has be Good has please THE other person.

I can certainly to understand her confusion because Me too to have had a lot of drama In myself around "be nice."

I grown up up In A family Or be Good And pleasant No matter What You were feeling was What was acceptable.

I had has learn that This wouldn't he create THE relationship I research, especially with Otto.

I had has be open has other possibilities of be.

By socket THE to focus disabled be Good And What I "think" could keep THE peace…

And instead, to focus on what is this authentic And honest…

I have find that THE opportunity For A TRUE magnet connection emerges.

Be magnet means deep listen has myself And THE other person, look For possibilities instead of blame Or trying has please.

Be magnet means not react Since old hypotheses And immediately get defensive. (I certainly know This one!)

Be magnet means calmly express myself Since My interior awareness instead of Since “should.”

This East A moment by moment decision And a few times I am better has he that others.

And I just keep practicing And keep magnet In THE best path I know how.

SO am I be "Good" with all THE please people connotations?

Not necessarily.

If You to focus on be your truth with love…

You are going has be guide has what is this appropriate In THE moment.

Be Good East important if You to want connection but It is A result that come Since be magnet has yourself as GOOD as has THE other person…

And not just "be Good" In manners that you have given yourself far In THE pass Or thought "Good" I meant.

There are other possibilities!

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