Get the respect you deserve and want in love and life

If there's one thing we all seem to want in love and life, it's the respect.

And when we don't feel it from someone, especially someone we love, we can have any number of reactions ranging from estrangement to fighting for it.

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But here is the problem of respect…

It means something different to everyone, although we believe that a sense of respect is universal.

One person we coached thought she was being disrespected because her boyfriend wasn't responding to texts as quickly as she thought.

And when she told him he was being disrespectful, he didn't understand because for him, we answered a text message when it was convenient and not necessarily right away.

The truth is, another person (like her boyfriend) might not call the lack of an immediate text response a disrespect, but our Coach client did.

So in order to have more respect, become aware of your unique definition and know that it may not be your partner's definition.

This suggestion can help you not to immediately trigger yourself when you think you have been disrespected, but rather allow you to take a step back and be curious to know more.

One of the ways to get the respect you deserve and want in love and life is to know this simple truth…

Respect is an inner work created within you for yourself.

You may be saying something like this…

"I RESPECT MYSELF, but my partner is disrespecting me with his critical comments!"

Okay, here's what we're saying...

Go back and really see if you really respect yourself the way you think your partner disrespects you.

Let's go back to our example above with our coaching client to get the respect she deserved…

During our conversation, she found out that she didn't feel important to her boyfriend when he didn't immediately text her back.

She also found that she tended to "lose herself" in whoever she was dating, ignoring her girlfriends and other aspects of her life that she had enjoyed.

She realized she could start giving herself the respect she wanted by reestablishing the friendships she had ignored and resuming the dance lessons she once loved.

She didn't have to make up a story inside her about her boyfriend disrespecting her...

And they could come to an understanding of how best to communicate and how they each wanted to "be" in their relationship.

Of course, sometimes you can find yourself in a situation where another person treats you badly…

And if that's true, you can decide from a clear place inside of you whether or not to stay in this relationship.

–>Important questions to ask if you plan to stay or leave