Honesty and relationships: Why it pays NOT to tell the truth

What A double-edged sword honesty And truth can be!

We all say We to want has be "truthful" And has be said THE the truth..

But TO DO We really?

If were Really honest with ourselves about OUR relationships, When he come down has he, THE "truth" We generally to want has hear East THE A We accept with.

Some time There is, We caught THE 2009 movie "THE Invention of Layer" And although We accept with THE reviews that It is not THE best movie We have seen...

He did to have A little things has say about layer And narrative THE truth.

In THE movie, We saw And felt What he could be as if everyone said their truth In each moment. In do, they I could not say A lie - except For A person.

THE result of all This tell the truth was pretty uncomfortable has times For THE people involved - even if he was funny has watch.

THE "truth" East that In most relationships--

A Or both of You dance around THE truth Or omit things that are important has You because You don't do it think your partner will as them And will get upset.

When You TO DO This, You are putting up walls has privacy And barriers has Deeper connection - no doubt about that.

But You don't do it to want has hurt THE other person with honesty And with each thought You think, isn't it?

What We ALL TO DO has bigger Or lessor degrees In OUR relationships East has NOT say THE "entire" truth with THE people In OUR lives And most especially...

We don't do it generally to want them has say We THE entire truth either, especially if It is uncomfortable has hear that.

If everyone was completely honest (judgments included) In ALL their communication, he could just be Also painful.

SO, What were saying is...

If were Really honest with ourselves, There is A pay For not be completely honest In OUR relationships.

We get has TO DO Of course We don't do it hurt anybody And they won't hurt We as GOOD. (GOOD maybe In THE short term.)

But East This NOT be completely honest GOOD Or bad For create close, connected relationships?

This led We has A question around This subject that were guessing You can identify with because We have faces with This A ourselves And It is Also A question that a lot of OUR "Relationship Breakthrough" management clients to have had as well...

"How TO DO You keep honesty And privacy In relationships without become upset When said THE truth?"

>>>OUR COMMENTS:

We all know that It is A piece of cake has be honest with someone Or has Really hear What another person said if You think THE message East something You both accept with And Neither A of You find reprehensible.

It is EASY has be truthful.

But What if You to have has say someone something that could be upsetting Or even TO DO that person angry?

And What if someone tell You something that you would have instead not hear Or do you think?

Not as comfortable has say Or hear THE truth, isn't it?

It is THE path a lot of We are do until not to want has be harmful And has get along.

But What arrived When We to disagree with someone - someone We love - or he Or She does not agree with us?

A few of We hint has THE truth Or completely ignore he, hoping that he will go far without Never rental THE other person know how We Really feel--just has keep THE peace Or any of them other reason.

When This arrived, he grows THE two of You further Since love, privacy And connection.

When THE two of We First of all came together, We do A agreement that We would be be totally honest with each other SO that We could keep OUR passion And connection alive.

We had both do he THE other path And knew that he doesn't work SO We research has be Of course We doesn't TO DO that even error twice.

He sounded as A GOOD agreement but When We begin putting he In practical, ...