Life lessons: how to identify what you need to learn to move on

It is not uncommon, after a difficult experience, to wonder what life lessons we could learn from it. Whether it's wanting to avoid making the same mistake again, making sure we take better care of ourselves, or simply wanting to understand what happened, we can feel the desire, even the pressure, to understand it. So I thought it would be helpful to share life lessons and what they are trying to show us.

There are familiar themes in the life lessons. They are:

Listen to each other, respect and value each other in order to reclaim and appropriate. In other words, reduce people's pleasure, perfectionism, excess, overthinking and over-responsibility. Need to slow down and respect our limits (and possibly those of others) Rely on assumptions and biases Give our power Need to process a particular experience/judgment/story in our emotional baggage Read the list of 24 life lessons and see which one (or more) resonates Ignoring you, rejecting you and overcoming you. What did you keep saying about yourself? Hint: it's not true! Don't trust yourself. How would you phrase it? So, wasn't it enough self-confidence or too much confidence in the other? If it's about not trusting yourself, what past experiences and self-judgments formed the basis? If it's about trusting someone too much, what was it about them or what they represented that made you invest trust? Prejudices and blind spots were at work. This can include making too many assumptions and jumping to wrong conclusions that lead to problematic decisions. What assumptions, even if you think they are expectations or beliefs, did you base your actions on? Moving too fast. Even if you thought what you were doing at the time was okay/good/normal/logical/{insert word of your choice}, where in hindsight can you see that you went too fast? Did you move too quickly emotionally, mentally or physically? Or can you recognize where someone else moved too quickly? Try to take a shortcut. Where have you circumvented your (or even someone else's) limits? What were you trying to avoid in your attempt to get/avoid something? Indecision. Where did you hesitate with yourself (and others)? Now that the window to make the decision has passed or you have made it, what was behind your indecision? Give your agency. Who do you consider to be an authority, and why? Lie to yourself. What truth were you struggling to accept? Or, what did you hope would happen if you believed the lie? Still angry, hurt, affected by something in the past. Use this experience to be honest about where you haven't forgiven yourself. This can be a starting point for further exploration, including unsent letters and finding additional support. Settled for too little. Accept the unacceptable. Why ? What was the thought process behind this? Stop trying to "get" or "avoid" the same thing. What drives this motivation, and can you see where it sets you up for a downfall?