Top 10 Worst Relationship Scenarios…

The other day, a friend of ours asked us about all the worst-case relationship scenarios they were hearing. They wondered if people are still getting married because divorce rates are so high (one source cites divorce is 50% for first marriages, 67% for second, and 74% for third). p>

Although we do not research this area, among the people who contact us are very interested in an intimate and committed relationship, if not marriage.

So, are people afraid to get into a relationship because of statistics and what they see happening to others around them?

We don't think so.

While we urge people to be open to making and maintaining this type of commitment, we also know that without the follow-up actions of doing what it takes to create the relationship you want–

A commitment alone is pretty hollow.

A lot can happen in a relationship, especially one that lasts for many years. So we've identified 10 "worst-case relationship scenarios" and some tips on how to deal with them.

You (or someone you love) may be experiencing one or more of these issues right now and if so, we urge you to take conscious and positive action towards what you want.

1. There has been a drastic change in the life of one or both of you: the serious illness or death of a child, chronic and serious health problems, financial problems such as bankruptcy, loss of a job, the loss of a parent or the care of a parent.

We all know that drastic changes in life can upset relationships. If you've had a life change like we've described, the main thing you can do is make self-care as important as the other priorities in your life.

If you need professional assistance, be sure to get it. Don't go through your life pretending you're unaffected by change. Take action to get the help you need.

2. You had a great relationship and now your partner doesn't want to talk to you anymore and you feel distant from each other.

It's true that relationships come and go and in order for your relationship to stay strong, you need to change and adapt.

But you must continue to communicate to do so.

If you or your partner have been "blocked" and not talking about what is going on for a while, it can definitely lead to the end of the relationship.

If this happens to you, be honest about what is happening.

Be honest with yourself and your partner about what you are going through without blaming either of you.

3. You or your partner have had or are having an affair and there are serious trust issues.

Trust issues, especially from past infidelity, can completely erode a relationship, let alone continued affairs.

Our advice - Be clear about what you want and what commitments you and your partner have to your relationship. If you're tempted by an affair, even an emotional one, instead focus your attention on your relationship to find out what's there. Focus on improving this relationship first, if possible.

If you need help, we offer practical ways to restore trust in a relationship after cheating.

4. There is a conflict of values ​​between you two and no one is willing to give in.

These different values ​​can manifest in many ways: raising children, managing finances, religious differences, cultural differences, and much more.

When there is this kind of conflict, one or both people try to transform themselves into something that is not and may never be.

Bringing these differences to light, listening to each other and not hurting each other is the starting point.

Then find out if there is enough overlap of other interests and values ​​that will allow the relationship to thrive or if you are both better off, happier apart.

Using "magic words" can open you both up to conversations that can help you understand each other.

5. Your partner says "I'm leaving" or you have the urge to leave that you can't get rid of.

In committed relationships and marriages, a person considering leaving usually thinks for a while before acting.

If this describes you or your partner,...