Why does he keep me if he doesn't want a relationship?

Why does he keep me if he doesn't want a relationship? Can't he just let me go?

Why does he keep contacting and following me?

"That's boring! If he doesn't want to have a relationship with me, then get out of my life!"

I get this question often and here is the short answer…

It benefits him more to keep you than to let you go.

It's pretty simple, isn't it?

A guy keeps you because unless you're super needy, a stalker, a violent woman, or cause too much grief to him and the other people in his life, he's better for him to keep you.< /em>

It benefits him to keep you because for men, women are a resource.

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You see, while I was thinking about this, I was thinking about this concept that women are a resource for men. And while I was thinking, I found the perfect term that I think will help you understand this behavior in men.

This term is "the harem effect".

Maybe if I put it that way it will help you understand the basic biological reason why a man would want to try to keep you around if he doesn't want a relationship.

Also, here's a video I made that answers the question: why is he keeping me if he doesn't want a relationship?

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What is the "harem effect"?

The definition of a harem is: a group of female animals sharing a single mate. Or women occupying a harem; the wives (or concubines) of a polygamous man.

Okay, so you're not in a polygamous relationship with a man. In fact, you may be the only woman in this man's life.

But think of the harem effect like this:

For many men, having at least 1 woman around is better than having no women around.

He doesn't need to have a lot of girlfriends, concubines or wives around. All he needs is a minimum - keyword minimum - of a girlfriend. One is better than nothing.

If he were to just let you go, what would be the benefit?

If you're not causing him too much trouble, why let you go?

Making trouble, which is, you know, like letting go of your anger and scratching it. Bite him, give eggs to his car or stalk him, his family or his cat.

If you're not that crazy, then why would he make the decision on his own to let you go?

If he chose to get rid of you, then he would cut himself off from access to sex.

Think about it.

If he let you go, he would say "no" to sex.

And what man would want to do that, unless:

The woman had an extremely low value He felt no attraction for the woman; Where Maybe she got him in serious trouble?

By the way, it's imperative, if you don't want a man shackling you for all the wrong reasons, that you not only test him, but also avoid showing all the common signs of low value.< /p >

Why?

Because men can see it when a woman shows low value, and toxic men will pick on her and try to take her away.