Respect: 3 ways to have more in your life

While Joe and Janet sat with their banker in his little cubicle at their local agency, they grew increasingly resentful of each other.

Joe was angry and ashamed because he thought Janet didn't respect or trust him, especially with money.

Janet was surprised because she thought he was being unreasonable at the time.

The two men had been dating for about a year and had decided to take the next step and move in together.

With this decision, many other decisions tested their relationship, but…

This one really hit some unexpected hot buttons!

Because they were merging their households, they wanted to open a common checking account but there was a problem…

They needed another account to link overdraft protection and Janet refused to use her savings account which contained $25,000 for this purpose.

Since Joe had $200 in his savings account, they couldn't use it as overdraft protection, so they walked away without it.

In the car, he exploded and told Janet she didn't respect or trust him.

She maintained that she was, but that she wanted to keep that money separate.

That particular argument died out, but their disconnection did not.

That's what led them to frame us...

1. Respect is completely subjective and invented

Each person has their own idea of ​​what respect means to them and we forget that.

For Janet, she respects others by being on time and doing what she says she will do.

She feels respected when others listen to her and follow through on what they say they will do.

For Joe, he mixes respect and trust in his mind and if another person's actions don't align with how he thinks they should act towards him…

He feels he is not respected or trusted.

–>Here's a way to get back to trust and love