Trapped, stuck and not sure which way to turn? Unlock this way...

Cary felt trapped, stuck, fed up and didn't know what to do.

Her husband Denny lost his job last year and couldn't find another one.

She was tired of carrying the financial burden of their relationship because they only lived off her salary.

Cary had made the mistake of letting her husband take care of all their finances and bills early on and she had nothing in his name alone.

While this was all bad enough, Denny didn't seem to do anything to help around the house while she was at work.

She always encountered a kitchen full of dirty dishes and a cluttered house when she returned home.

She had asked him in different ways to clean the kitchen and tidy the house before going home…

But Denny always seemed to find something more entertaining on the computer to do with his time and never succeeded.

Cary felt trapped, stuck, and didn't know which way to turn, so she reached out to us for a chat.

She didn't want to leave the wedding, but she was tired of feeling so resentful all the time.

Here are a few things she learned during our chat about feeling trapped, stuck not knowing which way to go that can help you too…

1. You have more choices than you think

As we were talking, Cary saw that she had been the only one who thought her choices were so narrow…

Either suck it up and do what she always did: go to work every day, then come home and resentfully do all the cooking, cleaning, and other chores while Denny sits...

Or leave and divorce.

Cary realized that she had given up so much on herself many years ago and was ready to reclaim and take responsibility for her life.

She knew she could start by creating a checking account in her name only and have her paychecks sent to that account.

She could then control where her income was going and often in the past she had no idea.

While it meant more work for her, she also recognized that controlling how her income was spent was a freedom she hadn't felt in a long time.

2. Get the help you need

Cary also saw that she and Denny needed help navigating a better relationship, whether together or apart.

In the past, Cary had suggested coaching, but Denny had always avoided his suggestion and never agreed to follow through.

With a calm she had never felt before, she was ready to tell him that coaching was a condition for them to stay together.

Cary knew she didn't want to fight Denny anymore and as she gained clarity on what she wanted…

And when she stopped believing all the scary stories she had made up that might or might not come true…

She could clearly and calmly tell him the choices he could make, while explaining the choices she was making.

If you feel trapped, stuck, and not sure which way to turn…

Getting out of this trap means acknowledging your stories that you believe to be true and that are holding you hostage.

"If I do this, this horrible thing will happen."

The truth is, it could go as you fear…

And it may not be.

Even if it happens, it may turn out to be the best thing for both of you.

If you want help getting unblocked, contact us here…