26 Common Relationship Myths You Need to Stop Believing Immediately

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In our world, there are many relationship myths. These are misguided (although perhaps well-meaning) ideas about love and relationships that our society has learned to accept as truth, passing on to future generations as given facts of romantic wisdom. The cycle of these love lies continues on and on, reflected in popular culture and the media.

I'm here to tell you that a lot of ideas about relationships are absolute crap.

These types of relationship myths can be very damaging because they are ideas that do not correspond to real people and their real feelings. They are lofty "ideals" that rarely apply in real situations. (Find reliable relationship advice for couples here!)

For example, let's start with one of the most common: soul mates.

There is a recurring idea that everyone has another person they are meant to be with, often called a soul mate.

Is there just one person for you? No. There are a large number of potential partners for you and the possibility for you to choose (and have a happy relationship with) one of them.

We are responsible for our own paths and destinies. And truth be told, the idea that there is only one person who is your romantic destiny creates unrealistic expectations about partnerships, not to mention the fear and anxiety of never find "the right one". More on that later.

I am particularly passionate about demystifying the ideas surrounding relationship anxiety. Anxiety of this nature is very real and painful, but it's often brushed aside with catch-all statements like "doubt means no" or "relationships should be easy".

So you start to think that you always have to be 100% sure and 100% happy for your relationship to be "good".

No, guys. That's bad advice, and we're going to eliminate it.

Ready? Put on your practical hats because we're about to get rational.

PS: We have a guide to what we think true love is that you should definitely check out.

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1. There is a person for everyone.

Perhaps the most irritating relationship in the market is that there is only one person for all of us. A person?! Out of the billions?! Shit no, y'all.

Nathan and I feel incredibly lucky to have found each other… but not because we are kindred spirits. Although we all feel so lucky to have found another amazing person, we don't deny that there are other people we would have been compatible with and even happy with. Sure, we don't like to think of these people, now that we're together...but the fact is, there are plenty of other awesome humans you could build a relationship and a life with.

Personally. I think this idea should be a relief. It takes the pressure off, doesn't it? In our modern world, dating is hard enough; imagine if you had to hold on for that one soul that matched yours. The prospect would be quite overwhelming.

Instead, look for someone who makes you better, who encourages you to meet your own destiny and your own potential and become the best version of yourself. Find a partner who challenges you, believes in you, and is willing to work to create a strong, sustainable future with you.

It may not be fate, but these are two people who consciously choose to build a foundation of love and commitment. Isn't that more awesome?

2. Doubting means not doing it.

Do you have nagging doubts about your relationship? While it's valuable and legitimate to listen to your instincts, it's also possible that other issues are at play.

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