Podcast Ep. 263: Some people might not understand the meaning of this statement you are trying to make

This week's episode of Baggage Claim Sessions is about how we imply that we're unhappy with someone or something by making a statement without using words. I share common examples and explain how people more often than not don't even understand the message we are trying to communicate and that ultimately passive-aggressive behavior to make a point creates more problems than it doesn't solve it.

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5 key topics in this episode When we try to make a statement about something, we try to express our feelings and our position without words. By setting aside when we do things to express the causes and people we support, we use making a statement to attempt to express our frustration, displeasure, and resentment about something without saying "I'm not agree with what you said or did" or 'I need you….' Let's say our friend expresses something that upsets or offends us. Maybe we say something then, or maybe we don't. In the days and weeks that follow, we feel increasingly annoyed. When that friend invites us to his party, our way of trying to make a statement might be to decline. But does our absence from the party actually communicate it? Sure, we're aware of our "why", but our friend probably isn't. There are times when our actions make a statement about what works and doesn't work for us and what matters. This is when we are not subtle about the causes and values ​​we stand for, nor are we performative. Limits aren't just about communicating our displeasure about something. We are our limits, so how we present ourselves in the world communicates what we stand for and what suits and suits us. We spend our time being afraid to say no and to have limits, not realizing that we are already saying no through what we say yes to but also that we are already communicating our limits through the way we show ourselves. . If we tend to analyze what other people say and do, it may seem plausible that someone is picking up on the claim we are trying to make, i.e. we are analyzing things and drawing conclusions. for example. We text someone and they use three emojis at the end of their message instead of five. Mentioned Links + Recommended Resources

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