Why am I sabotaging my relationships? 8 hidden reasons revealed

Self-sabotage in relationships comes from a deep resentment of the vulnerability required of you in a committed relationship.

Furthermore, it comes from an unconscious but overwhelming sense of unworthiness. Especially when you get close to people.

If you're asking why I sabotage my relationships, the answers above are the simplest.

But surely there is more to this deleterious behavior than these two reasons? And here.

But first, let's explain what self-sabotage actually is.

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What is self-sabotage in a relationship?

Self-sabotage relationships are about destroying the trust, connection, and love between two people in a relationship, even when you really want that relationship in your life.

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This is often done subconsciously by embodying all the parts of yourself that are most difficult (if not impossible) for someone else to love.

Unknowingly or consciously, you will make life difficult for them or even go so far as to make them look down on you by being mean, dismissive, critical or just plain difficult to contact.

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What are examples of self-sabotage in relationships?

Some examples of self-sabotaging behaviors include:

Hostile body language (sneering, crossing arms, avoiding eye contact and turning away from them) Judging them and pointing out their flaws for no reason (usually for "fun"). make fun of them Choosing your "independence" over being intimate with them every time Refuse to try to trust them Insisting that they could never "understand" you despite the evidence they can (or at least try to) Walk away without explanation Thinking that people who choose to have intimate relationships are "weak" Deliberately doing things that someone not asked you to do All types of gas lighting Prioritizing your image (how your life and actions "look" to others) over the person you relate to

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Why am I sabotaging my relationships?

The reasons are manifold and are not solely related to early childhood neglect or our attachment styles, although these factors are certainly related to self-sabotaging behavior .

The reasons we self-sabotage are a combination of:

Our Attachment Styles Internal stress and anxiety (which relate to our...